They guys n girls n DUMC biz cell had an interesting chat the other day during our mamak session...everybody's favourite topic.....*drum rolls*

Boy Girl Relationship

One of my fren Y just came out of a relationship, poor thing was dumped, so my fren X was advising him n stuff lar. Then we moved on from handling break ups to chasing girls/guys

So i posed a question to X, since lately it's been on my mind i thought why not get a second opinion(especially and opinion i can trust) I asked X

Is it ok for a guy to chase a girl who is already taken?

Fren Y said jokingly - Why not?she not married haha

X reply was

Marriage is just a formal piece of paper, it's not about if he/she is married or not it's about trust and faithfulness. Ethically I think its wrong, would u like it if someone else came along n try to steal your gf?

Beebs interupt - Say she later on feels for the guy who chase after her?then wat?

X cont

Then she should break up with the boyfren, settle the relationship then only go with the other guy.

another situation
If the guy is overseas?then how?

Mr X - The tricky part about long distant relationship is the trust,Okie here is the situation you put ur shoes in to the bf overseas, do you/would you trust your gf back home?if a guy comes along and show her “concern”?and the girl could possibly feel vulnerable in a sense that she won't have the boyfren around so she might feel lonely, and if another guy comes in and show her "concern" basically give her all that her faraway bf cant give, then the guy is taking advantage of the girl's current situation, a girl who is vulnerable is very likely to give in to the guy bcoz of his interest, and most of the time once the interest is gone she will leave the guy.

X gf later comes in a gives her input

You shouldn’t start a relationship with a mistrust, exp the girl leaves her bf for u, bcoz many times I’ve seen this n it’s never worked, there is a lot of mistrust in the relationship
And u will start to wonder if she did it to him she can do it to u, then there is no security in the relationship.

But say if the girl does break up with the bf then go after the other guy, this guy may be a rebound, or in another scenario she goes “im not ready for a relationship lets just be frenz”

Then we continued with how to keep a girl happy…

Tip for guys in the future

When u ask your girl wat she wants to eat, if she says nything it means
A certain something n a certain somewhere but she’s not gonna be specific

Exp

Guy: wat you wan to eat?
Girl: nyting
Guy: okie we go eat chicken rice?
Girl: I no mood to eat rice
Guy: okie…tai chow?
Girl: duwan lar very oily
Guy: hmm then Mc’D?
Girl: duwan fastfood
Guy: okie so wat you want to eat?
Girl: nything…


N think Jason also can testify how difficult I can be at times, plus me being stubborn doesn’t make it easier on his side..but thank God he’s a patient man!